Client Tip #5: Step Out of Reactionary Thought

A primary way in which legal challenges present fertile ground for mindfulness practice is the tendency of these situations to challenge our conditioned notions of what “should be” or “what is fair.” Throughout our developmental experiences, we come to internalize ideas about how we think the world is and how the world should be. Very often, these thoughts over time become confused with reality and come to form the basis of a largely delusional, thought-driven sense of “self.”

When the conditioned thoughts and ideas about the world are threatened by events in adult life, the ego (or thought-based sense of self) will tend to mount a vigorous defense to establish its righteousness and preserve this sense of self. What frequently follows from this unconscious process is that we become hijacked by our thinking to a point at which we maintain little conscious connection to present-moment experience.

It is this loss of mindfulness that breeds deeper unhappiness which, in the context of legal disputes, is likely to be attributed to one’s “adversaries.” As you begin to react more from this unconscious state, it is very likely that you will attack your adversary in ways that will threaten his or her ego or false sense of self. In little time you will find yourself embroiled in ugly ego-sparring that could cost thousands of dollars in unnecessary legal fees.

A holistic approach to law practice can go far in preventing or mitigating this deteriorating scenario. By working through your situation in a way that strives to maintain connection to present-moment experience, you can become better able to dis-identify from conditioned thoughts and habitual reactions. This liberation will foster a much more clear approach to your situation and give rise to solutions that would never have surfaced in an ego-driven, reactive state.

To learn more about holistic law practice, contact Holistic Lawyer Michael Lubofsky at (415) 508-6263, or visit